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LUCYANNA/ WHY IS MY CHILD SO BOSSY/PARENTING

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RAISING CHILDREN

Someone asked, hey Lucyanna?  Who is the boss in your home you or the kid? And how did things go wrong with your friends kid? Why are they so bad? “BAD KIDS ?” . . .

The thing of it is was,  i knew my MOTHER & FATHER were my BOSS. Now this is my home and i am the boss and the child does as it is told.

The thing of it all is somewhere along the line parent and child reversed role, allowing the child to take over the boss, position, of the house hold. They allowed this,  i did not.

But the thing of it is the parent doesn’t even realize  the “position”,  they gave up to their child,  now their BOSS, was indeed something they were doing by allowing the kid to always get their way.  But then Society, along with  the parent  then,  deemed the kid to be spoiled, rotten, mean, bad and all sorts of names, without understanding the child still thinks he is in charge.

Complicated i know, but simple really, it’s like eating any time you are hungry for ever, now you are not allowed to! What are you going to do?  You always eat . . .Now no one is going to let you eat. What do you think you will do?  EXACTLY!    And it is nobody’s  business what you would do.   And more than likely,  it will be something bad. And why not? Your starving! . . .Well same with the kid you don’t listen to anymore. How do you think it feels? Ship-ahoy mate. We’re on our own boys.  Smell you later.

You don’t blame a child,  you ask why? Odd how there are always reasons.

The thing of it is . . .It is most likely over something really childish in the first place, and i only say “Childish” because it all derived from a child’s [point of view and the parent failed to see this by falling  not to obey the BOSS, which was the role in the house-hold  given to the child, all because the parent forgot that "parents",  are the boss! Not. { Awe, look at the cute little baby, let it have one or give it one to stop it crying, people are looking}. I ask you . . .Does you boss care if you are crying or you want it.  NO!  They explain anything as to why not.

It's not a bad kid it is a bad parent. More than likely . . .the child's parent was not properly parent-ed either. Which is why i say NO! to your question.

NO!  YOU DO NOT ALWAYS  KNOW BETTER.  BETTER THAN WHAT? BETTER THAN WHO? [ So you ask].

We are not born knowing we are taught. There are thousands of teachings who the better? What the better. We are who we were taught to be. Sure, then we are on our own, our own BOSS. “Unless the parents are around”.

But don’t laugh just yet . . .There happen to be thousands of parents that are the BOSS in the house.   And look at some of those children . . .EXACTLY!

The good and the bad.All with money, some good some bad. We know the good are the ones that become doctors. But they want money to save your life. So i can not tell you if that is good or bad.I guess that would make money the boss, maybe i’m wrong. What kind of question is that anyways?

So you think by listening to your parents and going to school, learning a trade makes you good? We make ourselves good with the help of our parents. 

The thing there is that it is a special kind of people to learn to save lives rather take lives.   But they charge you lots of money. Odd to me,  i’m just saying.  So what is good what is bad? Unless we are taught we know nothing. {But to know “nothing” is a good thing sometime}.   Sometimes to know too much is not good for the brain. [We call these people idiots] . So we are taught. Which is odd to me,  because parents take the time to teach their child about idiots by starting off calling the child,  an idiot,  and then, taking the time to describe,  to the child how he is as an idiot . . .How the parent was taught what the word meant. Your nothing but an idiot!  Now you are in trouble because, YOU JUST CALLED THE BOSS AN IDIOT!

All i can answer to that is that you allowed your new-born-child, to grow into telling you what to do                 EXACTLY! [which explains the missing "dot" after do], You just can not knock a boss off!  To many bad thing occur. You can never allow your child to tell you what to do in the first place. You can however teach them how to make proper suggestions.

So as far as i am concerned to answer you question about How important is it to let your child know you are their boss?  My answer is. “VERY IMPORTANT“. Age one or as soon as the child can crawl.  And as for your question about How to be the boss to a child that young, easy . . .You gently pick your child up and change their direction, WITHOUT SAYING A WORD!

Should the child venture back to the area of no, no, then you do the same , gentle pick the child up change the direction without saying a word.

Should words be spoken it should be things like, come-on, come-on, that a good baby. come-on.  [this is your command], as a parent. The child will grow into your command as long as THE COMMAND IS ALWAY GENTLY put forth! not cursing and yelling and name calling and . . .Not doing,  as your child boss told you to do.  So about REVERSE ROLLS IN PARENT AND CHILD? Yes i understand how it happens . . .Why did you ask? Is your child bossy and you can not handle it?

The thing  of it is this type of take over of the child is it  STARTED AT A VERY EARLY AGE. Now that the child is nine, ten, eleven, twelve, thirteen and so on . . .The situation is much harder to get them to realize THE PARENT IS THE BOSS.  But it is not hopeless at all unless the PARENT does not want to play their part in fixing it all.  Which is not as hard as you may think it is.   LOVE.

But not always . . .Some children become the boss of the parent as the parent ages. And i’m just saying . . .Again,  somehow, somewhere along the walk of life,  the aging parent allow the child to take over to role of command,  thus,  sometimes suffers the wrath of the new boss in the child.   Or the child may be a blessing to the parent as the child is a gentle boss just like you were to them.

It is all how we are taught, is my over all answer,  as to who i think should be the boss in a house-hold. This i find a safe answer rather slash off at the mouth saying who the boss should be. If a child is taught at an early age that it has control of the parents and the house-hold, who is to say they have no control after all.  Not me!.

And about your question . . .Who is the boss in my house? Me! Well if my parents aren’t around that is. And about that kid . . .He was always telling his parents what he wanted and what to do, so i have no say there. And that you ask me How.  How what! Slash that!

This is how,  to answer your question about how?   As a parent,  you are the “adult“,  which means,  you have learned many things growing-up. You learned the hard way or the easy way, but you do know there is a way, there always is.

Thing of it is . . .Do we want to be easy or hard on our children,  starting right off in the beginning,  you are the boss and things do not get out of control.

 TELL YOU WHAT . . .That i am the boss in this place.

SLASH OFF WITH THE QUESTIONS.

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THIS IS WHAT SHE LEARNED OVER THE YEARS & ABOUT BULLIES

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LEARNINGS

A history told,  is mainly made up. Yes some of it is true, plenty of it is true. But what is true. Which parts do we believe to be true. And why is all the rest of  it un-true.

  1. She has learned not to believe everything she is told or everything she has read.
  2. She has learned everything needs fill-ins, to grandeur it’s purpose.
  3. Everybody likes to tell their story how they want. True or false.

How many little added touch-up’s  do we add into something we are telling? What is it . . .To spice it up?

Hundreds and thousands of things are not FAIR!, in this life. carpet baggers, , i don’t know. She thinks like that. Should she run a country, things would not be like that. Un-fair. should she be QUEEN. She thinks about that. She thinks as QUEEN, a quadrant of footmen be at her side at all times. Fully armored. SPIT ON THE GROUND NOW BOY

As QUEEN-PICK IT UP!  Watch my guardsmen.

  1. She has learned all rules are broken mainly by our RULERS of this planet.
  2. She has learned no officials care how unfair the ECONOMICS are for us.
  3. she has learned the importance in REALLY WANTING TO LEARN IN SCHOOL. With the bullies.

 Learn how to deal with the bullies.

The hard way. Her way.

By letting everybody see how i will not let the BULLY take me down. She holds her head high in public, keeps her eyes focused on her path.  She will turn her head if she hears her name but not for anything else.    Just her name… Get it. What is the bully going to do? This is what she LEARNED!

  1. Is the bully going to Chase, her down the hall like a madman?
  2. Is the bully going to continue yelling out shit as she continues on like she hasn’t got a clue as to what is going on because her name was not called?
  3. Is the bully going to look and sound like they are on some kind of BRAIN KILL  yelling out in a crowd of people by themselves?

So this may cause this raging bully to wait for you after school or somewhere in the school when you are by yourself. { GOOD}! You are alone. Don’t you get it?  LEARN THIS. Learn it good. Learn it now. Learn it like she did.

You now have hundreds and thousands of OPTIONS standing right at your side. Never forget that. They are yours.

  • DO NOTHING UNTIL THEY DO     NOTHING AT ALL
  • ASK PROUDLY OH YOU GOING THERE TOO
  • KEEP YOUR CORE STRAIGHT! STAND BIG AND PROUD
  • WAIT

HERE IS WHAT SHE LEARNS

  1. SOMETIMES THEY BACK DOWN
  2. SOMETIMES THEY JUST HAVE WORDS
  3. SOMETIMES THEY ARE THERE TO KICK YOUR ASS.

SO WHERE DID SHE GO?  She went [Berserk].   She said why not. Why not . . .Why not see how strong i really am that i think i am. I kind of always wanted to know what it would be like to kick ass. If they are going to hit me i am going to hit back. She thought what if it hurts. She thought they will heal, so will i. But she LEARNED

  1. Never ever make the first move. Never
  2. Never be smart in the mouth. EVER!
  3. Wait to see their first move towards you. cause now you know the fight is on.

She has learned what ever step taken toward her, she will get there first!

You use your arms and hands keep your legs strong.

TO GRAB IN BOTH HANDS A HOLD OF THEIR CLOTHS AND THROW THEM ON THE FLOOR    AWAY FROM YOU

NOW KEEP YOUR STANCE   TELL THEM    SCARE THE SHIT OUT OF THEM   TELLING THEM NOT TO GET UP OR ELSE[MAKE SHIT UP MAN]

Like you will tear them new arm-pits. or break their balls, whatever.

But she learned . . .Should this kind of encounter happen.

  1. Be prepared to maybe get hurt you will heal
  2. Be prepared to be able to protect you. AND TAKE A HIT.
  3. be prepared to know when the battle begins and when it ends.

Battles always end until a new one starts.  Plus we get tired our muscles get sore so we need to put a stop to the fight fast.

She is not afraid of bullies at all, she is afraid of politics and what they do to us.  Over the years she has learned.The most important thing in life is not to allow any bully to have their bully fun ways using her. Just  BERSERK

  • If you have to show them who and what you are do it!
  • If you can lift 50 pounds then you can take care of yourself.
  • Because if you can lift 50 pounds you can hit or push or kick or what ever with 50 pound impact!    May be  more.
  • It all depends on how you JUST BERSERK

LESSON well LEARNED i hope.

But she also learned at times bullies become your friend.   What?

This is what she has learned over the years & about bullies. Thousands of them do not have REAL FRIENDS they do not know how to make friends but why should they  . . .Bullies think and believe everyone has to be their friend. They can not understand why shouldn’t everyone give them what they want. They think who are YOU not to.

She has learned this all starts at home. Bullies are created through over the years from home. HOW AND WHY YOU SAY.

DURING  “PLAY TIME”  WITH MOMMY AND DADDY

AND OTHER THINGS.

 

 

 

 

 

ACTING AS A BOYFRIEND/GIRLFRIEND DUTY RULES CAN BE FOUND HERE

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So you went out and choose to have a GIRLFRIEND/BOYFRIEND relationship.

There are rules to be followed when you want to enter into any relationship. [This can only stand to reason]. As now you are a couple, a pair, a unit. You have somebody else to consider rather than yourself. {Or be back by yourself} with yourself.

When you take on a relationship of boyfriend/girlfriend you are taking that individual’s, life style.

For that matter . . .What is your purpose with this person?  You must be able to at least stand the way they are, to be able to live with them to share and or build a life together.

SO UPON READING THIS YOU KNOW WHAT YOU ARE GIVING UP TO HAVE A GIRLFRIEND/BOYFRIEND

You have Rules to follow by taking on a roll of boyfriend/girlfriend. These rules should be presented at the point in time where an individual invites one or the other to in fact be a /boyfriend/girlfriend in the first place. Then the rules MUST BE UNDERSTOOD

DUTIES

Except one another as is. Be ready to give and give and give. Be able to take and take and take. Honor one another by respect. . .Do the dishes and cleaning and picking up, paint the fence and keep the yard tidy, chop the wood  and take out the garbage.  The whole house hold  chores and shopping belong to you both with equaled proportion.

 Should these things not comply by one another this means they are not ment to be together. Which means do not start a relationship with each other . . .Know when to say no thank-you,  i like it how we are now,  i don’t want to be boyfriend/girlfriend. You live here i live there.

OF COURSE THESE DUTIES ARE ONLY TO BE  USED BY LIVE-IN BOYFRIEND/GIRLFRIEND individuals.

Picture this . . .He/she /does it all getting tryed of this other person wondering why they gor together in the first place. Or they  or one of them start hitting and throwing things, but they stay or are a fraid to leave . . .

YOU SHOULD HAVE READ THE RULES ON BOYFRIEND/GIRLFRIEND

 

 

 

 

SOME TEENAGERS NOT ALL

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Some teenagers not all teenagers act like little children. It seems they have nothing better to do,  than walk the streets at night and break things like Glass bottles, on the bike path.

Maybe some teenagers can explain the fun in this smashing glass on bike paths to us. Some teenagers, not all teenagers like to be destructive. WHY?   What is the fun in destroying other people’s property?

Some teenagers not all teenagers know the value in working hard to gain something they want, while other teenagers couldn’t care less. Why? Does this come from how they are raised?  YES IT DOES.

Some teenagers not all teenagers should learn by way of examples of tit-for-tat, and see how they like it.  But this is a very poor example of teaching, i know . . .But at times, this is the only way some teenagers learn, while others will rebel and hunt for revenge.

Some teenagers, not all,  are the product of their parents. As some parents are ignorant of other people’s  belongings.

What do you think . . .Is this a valid statement.

NESTING

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Nesting is a form of preparing for mother hood by women bearing a child or by animals and birds, all getting ready to have a clean nest, ready for the birth. So let them do all the cleaning and preparing they want,  while you rest.

Sure, it is okay if you ask if help is required, other than that, stay out-of-the-way . . .Especially if this nesting mother is dangerous or not, being human or animal. All pregnant things can be scary when it is nearing the end, the nesting stage.

Of course,  this little learning lesson,  is about some humans in their nesting stage. If they want to be on their hands and knees washing the floor . . .LET THEM. Asking,  to do the floor washing for them,  can be harmful,  to your health.

If you know anyone nesting,  just remember to offer them something to eat,  instead of wanting to do their work.   Sure ask if help is wanted, and nothing more.

 

TWENTY TWELVE FIGHT THE MORPH

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The year 2012 is bad for some of us now, the heat of the sun dries us out. As said . . .Here on PLANET EARTH our life force is water to keep from any morphing. The days have proved to be death taken its toll, on us of those who can not journey out in the heat. Don’t forget,  we can venture out in the night, but it is a risk we must take,  in order, to sustain this life form, should we MORPH back, To HOT WHITE you all die,  RED DUST.

In 2012 your sun has become hotter, for some of us,  this allows,  a two and a half-foot walking space against the side of the house,  of course, on the opposite side of the sun. Unfortunately, the pacing space is much shorter than the width of the house. 

 We are at risk of the sun on your hot days, if we do not have an abundance of water supply close by, the morphing process will begin.  This or we start the Morphing phase. From HUMAN,  form,  to that of  a WALKING ALLIGATOR  with the claws,  we need to kill and devour five of your kind,  in order to live long enough to FINAL MORPH. Then once again we take human life in the numbers, sucking LIQUID Essence of life from your world,  our only source of energy, to take us home from where you took us, Mars.

But don’t forget we all have the choise to live this Earth way of living or go Home, back to MARS, and be one of the beautiful,  bright stars you see at night. But the ones,  of us,  who want to stay must fight for life in this human form. 

But why? Why go be a star for you and watch as you stay in groups away from each other, when we,  see it,  as freedom.

We have to feed and live one way or the other.                       There . . .Here. Some of the entities still here on Earth want to stay, they have come to enjoy meeting people with chatters and Love, or lust or happy families,  amongst,  plenty,  of other things, you as mankind do, rather than just shine in the night and fade in the day.

But right now she is starving for water.

  • Twenty-twelve July,  has been too hot.
  • She needs to be by any river. 
  • Her only means of that outside,  consists,  of a perimeter, of  two and a half feet,  by five feet.
  • No river water in smelling distance.

In this heat, she needs clean air, in its stead, of stale dead air,  in the house with the humans, she  came to be with, she also can not sit in city water or hours causing everyone to question, why does mom sit in the tub for hours everyday . . .This human vessel is starting to shrivel up and dry.  Everyone can see she is  losing weight at a very fast pace.

 This choise she choose to keep this form on Earth has become a danger to her without soaking in water for hours.

Right now she is in the heart of the big city, and water is scarce.

She must leave this place of living or die. Only thing is . . .The body she entered into is that of a woman in Love with a family. This family as far as family’s go, is one of the good ones, where you Love life and everyone in it. Now she had to leave. Would she return? would she Morph? The outcome depended on whether or not a river could be found with-in the next few days . . . If not,  she would surely kill to survive and go home to mars.

  • She would leave in the night when everyone slept.
  • She would leave a note saying she had to leave.
  • She would fight the morph.

Night arrived as she settled the Loved ones to rest, kissing each of them dearly on the cheek, with an,  i Love you, sleep well. Then bedded with the man she came to understand and care for one last time. When he was fast a sleep,  she did what she had to do and left, not really knowing where to go,  but go,  to be where she needed to be or parish. This was going to take a day or so depending on finding her way out of the large city and any encounters with strangers wanting to harm her-as she was a woman,  out, on her own,  in the night, where the bad human people come out looking for a fun time.

It was about two in the morning when a loud holler bellowed out. “Hey little lady where are you going this time of night.” When she turned to see, three men stood semi-circle around her. One of them drank out of a brown bottle. The other one tossed his empty bottle off to the left of him. The one with the loud mouth, held a shiny weapon waving it through the night air . . .”Look, i don’t want any trouble, i just want to find a river.” The men all chuckled at this saying things like . . .”Did you heard that Ross . . .we’re going skinny dipping.” . . .”I told you to never say my name.” . . .”the river? . . .You going to catch yourself a gator?” . . .’You have a long way to go to get to a river.” . . .”What makes you think you will reach a river.” . . .As they spoke, they surrounded her closing in.

She turned looking them,  each in the eyes,  studying their every move. “Look, as i said,  i don’t want any trouble, leave me now.”

“Leave you now . . .Did you boys hear that? . . .Leave me now.” He mimicked. “ Little miss queeny has demands.”

Meanwhile her insides were burning with currents of pain, she waited her stay to long, she should have left days ago.  Atoms and cells were starting to change, electric volts rang through-out this human’s system.

 She had no time to waste on these drunkard perverts. “Hey, look at her . . .She ‘s shaking all over, scared as a baby kitten, and i’m  going to get me some pussy. He lounged out at her as the others stepped in as well.

  • She tried to run but could not.
  • Her insides were Morphing to fast.
  • Her skin hardened and turned blackish forming scales.
  • The shape of human was no more.

Claws scratched across the ground and the men shrank back. The once lily white small neck,  now hung low to the ground, The men screamed in terror as she roared out in the dead of night. But only one had white clean eyes, only one,  lie naked on the cold ground,  as she ate all the genitals of the sex glands, carefull not to break the piss bag. The other two died with three deep gashes from head to toe.

 

She is in despret need of an isolated river before morning.

MEN!

 

 

 

 

 

WHAT EXCUSE DID YOU USE NOW

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Uncle Jim with Deer

Uncle Jim with Deer (Photo credit: gem66)

Excuse excuses. What excuse did you use now.

What are EXCUSES?  They are,

  1. Reasons
  2. Answers
  3. Escapes
  4. Trouble
  5. Beating around the bush one would say.
  6. LIES.

LAME answers for reasons to escape loopholes you find yourself in.

JUST TELL THE TRUTH so the question does not come back at you again.  That way you feel good about yourself and not feel bad about the dumb excuse you came up with. Because now you have to remember the excuse you gave. EXCUSE ME? Pardon me. what!

If you are going to use an excuse or have to use an excuse, then tell the real reason, because after a while people or friends will not believe you.

What excuse did you use now . . .Picture this.

Mom, Dad, i can’t go to Uncle Lou’s this weekend with you. The teacher gave us an assignment that we have to hand in Monday.  But, Mr. & Mrs. Pettlenots said i could stay  the week-end with Lucy/ Bob and study. Mrs. Pettlenot will even take us to the library and pick us up. {As you hand over the fake note}, you say,  She wrote, but really it was Lucy/bob. You become more a liar and now have to lie some more. Because the phone number was not put on the paper and now you have to get the phone number,  in hopes your parents don’t want to call and talk to these fake people. WHY FAKE?  Because you’re so called friend made them up thinking it was funny, and not thinking about your parents asking questions about, who are these people.

Now you have to come up with more lame excuses, and reasons and answers as to why they gave no phone number and how come you never spoke of the Pettlenots before and where do they live? So you say . . .Mom,  dad, don’t you want me to pass? Then dad wants to know just what is the assignment on.  Well now . . .What did you just get yourself into. Because now Mom and Dadwant to postpone the trip because they want you, to pass, with flying colors.   THINK . . .lets hear the excuse now.

English: A novel excuse for non-attendence at ...

English: A novel excuse for non-attendence at Sunday services (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

EXCUSES always seem to catch up with you one way or the other. The truth is so easy and over with.   Sure sometimes the truth hurts,  but that is life, and giving birth hurts,  but Mothers do it,  again and again. So enough with your lame excuses and get to school or go to your Uncle’s or get a job or what ever else comes at you.  Forget the excuse and tell the truth and things will get easier for you.

GO ASK YOUR MOTHER

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How funny is that statement . . .GO ask your mother. Don’t all fathers say that. Most of them . . .Yes they do. Go ask your mother.

Thing is,  it always has something to do with the tender side of things,  like sex.

Silly fathers . . .Mothers just slap us in the head and tell us to ask of the fathers.

THE WELCOME HOME

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NO one was at the station to pick me up. I sat there for an hour and waited. I felt empty. I could have taken a taxi, but what would the point be . . .I didn’t bring my key. Sorry me. At least it was warm sitting in the train station rather sitting outside on my steps,  in the cold light rain and windy. 

Welcome home -no-you welcome home. Mom it is good to have you back. No,  it is good to have you back. Mom what are you doing here. Its my home,  i live here. Mom we thought . . .Good enough,  mom said,  that explains everything. No mom . . .We thought you were coming home tonight. Thats nice . . .It’s only a seven hour train ride. Now where is the baby. Come here little one, gramma wants to have a big hug and kiss. Now that was great.

The baby hugged me tight and kissed my cheek and rub my arm. “Grammas back?” Yep. “Grammas home from friends?”  Yep. “Gramma play cars?” Sure . . .We can play cars. “Miss you?” Yes, gramma missed you.

Then the excitement was over. Welcome home.