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LUCYANNA/ WHY IS MY CHILD SO BOSSY/PARENTING

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RAISING CHILDREN

Someone asked, hey Lucyanna?  Who is the boss in your home you or the kid? And how did things go wrong with your friends kid? Why are they so bad? “BAD KIDS ?” . . .

The thing of it is was,  i knew my MOTHER & FATHER were my BOSS. Now this is my home and i am the boss and the child does as it is told.

The thing of it all is somewhere along the line parent and child reversed role, allowing the child to take over the boss, position, of the house hold. They allowed this,  i did not.

But the thing of it is the parent doesn’t even realize  the “position”,  they gave up to their child,  now their BOSS, was indeed something they were doing by allowing the kid to always get their way.  But then Society, along with  the parent  then,  deemed the kid to be spoiled, rotten, mean, bad and all sorts of names, without understanding the child still thinks he is in charge.

Complicated i know, but simple really, it’s like eating any time you are hungry for ever, now you are not allowed to! What are you going to do?  You always eat . . .Now no one is going to let you eat. What do you think you will do?  EXACTLY!    And it is nobody’s  business what you would do.   And more than likely,  it will be something bad. And why not? Your starving! . . .Well same with the kid you don’t listen to anymore. How do you think it feels? Ship-ahoy mate. We’re on our own boys.  Smell you later.

You don’t blame a child,  you ask why? Odd how there are always reasons.

The thing of it is . . .It is most likely over something really childish in the first place, and i only say “Childish” because it all derived from a child’s [point of view and the parent failed to see this by falling  not to obey the BOSS, which was the role in the house-hold  given to the child, all because the parent forgot that "parents",  are the boss! Not. { Awe, look at the cute little baby, let it have one or give it one to stop it crying, people are looking}. I ask you . . .Does you boss care if you are crying or you want it.  NO!  They explain anything as to why not.

It's not a bad kid it is a bad parent. More than likely . . .the child's parent was not properly parent-ed either. Which is why i say NO! to your question.

NO!  YOU DO NOT ALWAYS  KNOW BETTER.  BETTER THAN WHAT? BETTER THAN WHO? [ So you ask].

We are not born knowing we are taught. There are thousands of teachings who the better? What the better. We are who we were taught to be. Sure, then we are on our own, our own BOSS. “Unless the parents are around”.

But don’t laugh just yet . . .There happen to be thousands of parents that are the BOSS in the house.   And look at some of those children . . .EXACTLY!

The good and the bad.All with money, some good some bad. We know the good are the ones that become doctors. But they want money to save your life. So i can not tell you if that is good or bad.I guess that would make money the boss, maybe i’m wrong. What kind of question is that anyways?

So you think by listening to your parents and going to school, learning a trade makes you good? We make ourselves good with the help of our parents. 

The thing there is that it is a special kind of people to learn to save lives rather take lives.   But they charge you lots of money. Odd to me,  i’m just saying.  So what is good what is bad? Unless we are taught we know nothing. {But to know “nothing” is a good thing sometime}.   Sometimes to know too much is not good for the brain. [We call these people idiots] . So we are taught. Which is odd to me,  because parents take the time to teach their child about idiots by starting off calling the child,  an idiot,  and then, taking the time to describe,  to the child how he is as an idiot . . .How the parent was taught what the word meant. Your nothing but an idiot!  Now you are in trouble because, YOU JUST CALLED THE BOSS AN IDIOT!

All i can answer to that is that you allowed your new-born-child, to grow into telling you what to do                 EXACTLY! [which explains the missing "dot" after do], You just can not knock a boss off!  To many bad thing occur. You can never allow your child to tell you what to do in the first place. You can however teach them how to make proper suggestions.

So as far as i am concerned to answer you question about How important is it to let your child know you are their boss?  My answer is. “VERY IMPORTANT“. Age one or as soon as the child can crawl.  And as for your question about How to be the boss to a child that young, easy . . .You gently pick your child up and change their direction, WITHOUT SAYING A WORD!

Should the child venture back to the area of no, no, then you do the same , gentle pick the child up change the direction without saying a word.

Should words be spoken it should be things like, come-on, come-on, that a good baby. come-on.  [this is your command], as a parent. The child will grow into your command as long as THE COMMAND IS ALWAY GENTLY put forth! not cursing and yelling and name calling and . . .Not doing,  as your child boss told you to do.  So about REVERSE ROLLS IN PARENT AND CHILD? Yes i understand how it happens . . .Why did you ask? Is your child bossy and you can not handle it?

The thing  of it is this type of take over of the child is it  STARTED AT A VERY EARLY AGE. Now that the child is nine, ten, eleven, twelve, thirteen and so on . . .The situation is much harder to get them to realize THE PARENT IS THE BOSS.  But it is not hopeless at all unless the PARENT does not want to play their part in fixing it all.  Which is not as hard as you may think it is.   LOVE.

But not always . . .Some children become the boss of the parent as the parent ages. And i’m just saying . . .Again,  somehow, somewhere along the walk of life,  the aging parent allow the child to take over to role of command,  thus,  sometimes suffers the wrath of the new boss in the child.   Or the child may be a blessing to the parent as the child is a gentle boss just like you were to them.

It is all how we are taught, is my over all answer,  as to who i think should be the boss in a house-hold. This i find a safe answer rather slash off at the mouth saying who the boss should be. If a child is taught at an early age that it has control of the parents and the house-hold, who is to say they have no control after all.  Not me!.

And about your question . . .Who is the boss in my house? Me! Well if my parents aren’t around that is. And about that kid . . .He was always telling his parents what he wanted and what to do, so i have no say there. And that you ask me How.  How what! Slash that!

This is how,  to answer your question about how?   As a parent,  you are the “adult“,  which means,  you have learned many things growing-up. You learned the hard way or the easy way, but you do know there is a way, there always is.

Thing of it is . . .Do we want to be easy or hard on our children,  starting right off in the beginning,  you are the boss and things do not get out of control.

 TELL YOU WHAT . . .That i am the boss in this place.

SLASH OFF WITH THE QUESTIONS.

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“ABOUT” QUESTIONS OF THE DAY & DO QUESTIONS GET ANSWERED

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ABOUT QUESTIONS    [people ask them], a lot. This is a good thing to do in life as it is our answered QUESTIONS getting us through each day. Take this test, for instance. Try to get through one whole day without asking a QUESTION. Any question will do. It only takes one question to LOSE the test.

We as a human race are the one’s who get to speak, talk words, not howl or bark or tweet. {One may even say}, 50/50 in asking questions. Though quite sure the scores go lower for 50,  on the nun questioning minority side. But even then . . .QUESTIONS win. We live in a world of questions.

How do we find or get answers to our questions.THIS DEPENDS.

Some questions are called old-school, these are simple to answer.

  • Well how come i have to go to bed early and they don’t.
  • Answer: You were the only one on the war-path, hit the sack.
  • Why is the sky blue.
  • Answer: Looks pretty grey to me. Now go sit down.

Then you have QUESTIONS LIKE THIS:

  • If the earth stopped turning would it fall out of the sky.
  • Answer: It all depends. Where does the sky end. And how would we know the earth is falling in the first place. Would we be tipping from side to side? What kind of question is that anyways . . .Get out of here, go play. I’m not a scientist, go ask your TEACHER.
  • If all components in gravity died would we float in space.
  • Answer: No. We would be sucked in as well. Oh my GOD . . .If it is GRAVITY pulling us to stay this PLANET EARTH, and somehow gravity vanished, I guess we would float away wouldn’t we. You better ask your teacher.

QUESTION OF THE DAY

  • When you close your eyes can you see your skeleton inside.
  • ANSWER: Ask me later. I have no time right now, i have dishes to do, and i got to get at my writing.
  • Is it waiting for you to tell it to move.
  • Answer: You gotta problem going on in your head there boy. What’s with all the questions. You think were going to die and your skin is all going to fall off and we will just be people of bone. Bone people?  Why don’t you just go play and let me get the dished done and then you can ask all the questions you want. We’ll have a good time. So get out of here.
  • HOW COME YOU DRESS LIKE THAT!
  • answer:Never did know how to dress to catch the wandering eye, just got dressed.

You look funny.

Cause i’m unfashionable. I got no style.

  • Whats unfashionable style.
  • Answer: What you are. How you like to look. This is my style. Unfashionable dress with unfashionable apron. Now go on, go do anything else, so i can get the dishes done. Where is your ipod?

Look at that, most of the answers are QUESTIONS.

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THIS IS WHAT SHE LEARNED OVER THE YEARS & ABOUT BULLIES

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LEARNINGS

A history told,  is mainly made up. Yes some of it is true, plenty of it is true. But what is true. Which parts do we believe to be true. And why is all the rest of  it un-true.

  1. She has learned not to believe everything she is told or everything she has read.
  2. She has learned everything needs fill-ins, to grandeur it’s purpose.
  3. Everybody likes to tell their story how they want. True or false.

How many little added touch-up’s  do we add into something we are telling? What is it . . .To spice it up?

Hundreds and thousands of things are not FAIR!, in this life. carpet baggers, , i don’t know. She thinks like that. Should she run a country, things would not be like that. Un-fair. should she be QUEEN. She thinks about that. She thinks as QUEEN, a quadrant of footmen be at her side at all times. Fully armored. SPIT ON THE GROUND NOW BOY

As QUEEN-PICK IT UP!  Watch my guardsmen.

  1. She has learned all rules are broken mainly by our RULERS of this planet.
  2. She has learned no officials care how unfair the ECONOMICS are for us.
  3. she has learned the importance in REALLY WANTING TO LEARN IN SCHOOL. With the bullies.

 Learn how to deal with the bullies.

The hard way. Her way.

By letting everybody see how i will not let the BULLY take me down. She holds her head high in public, keeps her eyes focused on her path.  She will turn her head if she hears her name but not for anything else.    Just her name… Get it. What is the bully going to do? This is what she LEARNED!

  1. Is the bully going to Chase, her down the hall like a madman?
  2. Is the bully going to continue yelling out shit as she continues on like she hasn’t got a clue as to what is going on because her name was not called?
  3. Is the bully going to look and sound like they are on some kind of BRAIN KILL  yelling out in a crowd of people by themselves?

So this may cause this raging bully to wait for you after school or somewhere in the school when you are by yourself. { GOOD}! You are alone. Don’t you get it?  LEARN THIS. Learn it good. Learn it now. Learn it like she did.

You now have hundreds and thousands of OPTIONS standing right at your side. Never forget that. They are yours.

  • DO NOTHING UNTIL THEY DO     NOTHING AT ALL
  • ASK PROUDLY OH YOU GOING THERE TOO
  • KEEP YOUR CORE STRAIGHT! STAND BIG AND PROUD
  • WAIT

HERE IS WHAT SHE LEARNS

  1. SOMETIMES THEY BACK DOWN
  2. SOMETIMES THEY JUST HAVE WORDS
  3. SOMETIMES THEY ARE THERE TO KICK YOUR ASS.

SO WHERE DID SHE GO?  She went [Berserk].   She said why not. Why not . . .Why not see how strong i really am that i think i am. I kind of always wanted to know what it would be like to kick ass. If they are going to hit me i am going to hit back. She thought what if it hurts. She thought they will heal, so will i. But she LEARNED

  1. Never ever make the first move. Never
  2. Never be smart in the mouth. EVER!
  3. Wait to see their first move towards you. cause now you know the fight is on.

She has learned what ever step taken toward her, she will get there first!

You use your arms and hands keep your legs strong.

TO GRAB IN BOTH HANDS A HOLD OF THEIR CLOTHS AND THROW THEM ON THE FLOOR    AWAY FROM YOU

NOW KEEP YOUR STANCE   TELL THEM    SCARE THE SHIT OUT OF THEM   TELLING THEM NOT TO GET UP OR ELSE[MAKE SHIT UP MAN]

Like you will tear them new arm-pits. or break their balls, whatever.

But she learned . . .Should this kind of encounter happen.

  1. Be prepared to maybe get hurt you will heal
  2. Be prepared to be able to protect you. AND TAKE A HIT.
  3. be prepared to know when the battle begins and when it ends.

Battles always end until a new one starts.  Plus we get tired our muscles get sore so we need to put a stop to the fight fast.

She is not afraid of bullies at all, she is afraid of politics and what they do to us.  Over the years she has learned.The most important thing in life is not to allow any bully to have their bully fun ways using her. Just  BERSERK

  • If you have to show them who and what you are do it!
  • If you can lift 50 pounds then you can take care of yourself.
  • Because if you can lift 50 pounds you can hit or push or kick or what ever with 50 pound impact!    May be  more.
  • It all depends on how you JUST BERSERK

LESSON well LEARNED i hope.

But she also learned at times bullies become your friend.   What?

This is what she has learned over the years & about bullies. Thousands of them do not have REAL FRIENDS they do not know how to make friends but why should they  . . .Bullies think and believe everyone has to be their friend. They can not understand why shouldn’t everyone give them what they want. They think who are YOU not to.

She has learned this all starts at home. Bullies are created through over the years from home. HOW AND WHY YOU SAY.

DURING  “PLAY TIME”  WITH MOMMY AND DADDY

AND OTHER THINGS.

 

 

 

 

 

ON STRIKE

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ON STRIKE-QUIT

  1. Quit everything
  2. Quit something
  3. Quit

So now what . . .What will you do

  1. Start something
  2. Sit around
  3. Sulk

What . . .What will you do.  What did you quit. What happens now depends what you quit and to what extent did you quit.

  1. Totally everything
  2. Life
  3. Certain things

Should you still want to do certain things and did not quit everything then you always have something to fall on.  Should you quit it all then you pretend you have nothing left. When in actual fact you have. Everything!

Indeed you have it all . . .You just do not want to do anymore. So then you can always remain you. ON STRIKE.  Doing something you always wanted to do and have a blast doing it knowing it is you quitting.

  1. On yourself
  2. On others
  3. On you

I wish i had something, anything i could go on strike for. But there is nothing.

Oh wait a minute . . .I can go ON STRIKE and stop doing everyone’s cleaning. They can all lick their own ass. Butt. or something there like that. I want to be me. I’ll show them who is going on strike.

PICTURE THIS

What if i was the best ass licker in town, everyone came to get their ass licked and were proud of it. Even the mayor put up banners around town, proud to have the most favored town containing the greatest ass licker world-wide.

Of course this would bring in people from all over the GLOBE bringing in riches keeping the towns people content then i QUIT! I GO ON STRIKE! Plaster signs across the border and in markets.

ON STRIKE NO MORE ASS LICKING

Now everyone is wondering what the hell i’m going to do, following me around town waiting and watching in anticipation as to what’s going to happen now? No more ass licking . . .What the crap ass is that.

Well i’ve been ass licking for so long i don’t know what to do. Poo on you. Sooner or later i went missing and found myself listening to way deep in the JUNGLE where you can hear the cry of the Pisona bird, [pisona pisona pisona]. Now i just do what i want which is not having to ass lick.

Glad i went on strike

THE BEE DANCE CLEVELAND TEACHES SAROPHIA

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Hush now little one don’t you cry, there is nothing i can do to help you. Your mother is gone along with everyone else and she won’t be coming back. You are stuck here with me . . .I am stuck here with you. Don’t cry.

Hush now little one it won’t be long, the winds are blowing i can feel it strong, you will call for the bees you will dance for them all, they will come from far places . . . They will save us all. Don’t cry little one,  you need to be strong.

Hush now little one follow my feet,  watch my arms and keep the same beat, hold your hands high up to the sky make figure eights, keep the arms straight. Stop crying my dear stop and listen hear, try it one more time and get it right.

Hush now little one.  Stop that crying,  your mother is gone just like Barb!

Dance you have to dance,  dance like the bee, bend your body forward and wiggle like me. Wiggle and waggle just follow me, little steps,  little circles, then turn back around. Dance little girl, dance to save the world.

Cleveland was getting tired and not feeling well. He need to rest and Sarophia wanted to cry. Home is said, i want to go home, mommy said to stay in the cellar,  until she comes,  to get me out. Don’t leave she said or she will take my puppy.  Your puppy is gone little girl, stop that crying, eat a honey sandwich. Now come on, sit over here, eat and rest we will dance some more.

I don’t want to dance, i’m not a bee. I want my mommy and puppy, leave me alone.

Cleveland looked at the clock . . .It was a quarter past three. Tell you what. I will take you to town if you stop that crying and eat. Let me rest.

So there they were . . .One facing the other, a man who didn’t like cry babies and a little girl who wanted her mother.

Tell me your name one more time little girl, or should i call ou cry baby. he chuckled at her, she frowned. . .Sarophia . . .S  A  R  O  P  H  I  A.  Cleveland smiled. I didn’t ask you to spell it, now go on,  eat that up, it’s good for you . . .You’re a big meannie . . .Yes, yes . . .that’s okay, you can call me Cleveland, and if that is to hard for you, you can call me Cleve.

He went over to lay down . . .Listen Sarophia . . .I need to rest my eyes for a while, see that big hand on the clock?   Yes,  my mommy showed me for when it’s time to go to bed. That ‘s good, he told her . . .When the big hand goes all the way up to the top,  i want you to pump some more cold water in the pail and put it on my head. You think you can do that for me?

She did. Sarophia ate the honey sandwich and when the time was right,  she pumped the cold fresh water from the pump and dumped it all on his head! He gave a good yelp . . .

They would go into town and she would see her mommy was indeed gone and she would learn to dance the bee dance.

In the mean time,  Sam was on his way to do some shopping and the strange girl was soaking in the river, drinking in all the cool fresh pure water running down stream from the mountain tops. She was not feeling well . . .She was stung by a bee.

 

 

 

SLEEP WHY CAN”T I SLEEP

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SLEEP.      Why  is sleep important?

  1. We grow.
  2. We heal.
  3. We energize.
  4. We  rest when we sleep.

Sleep gives us energy, that we have strength,  to do the things we do. With the right amount of sleep we are good thinkers. With no sleep we can become quite silly and fall down, [where upon  down there,  depending on how hard we fall, we will sleep].

Without sleep we become sluggish and act in a mean manner,  whether we want to or not.   Being tried all the time is VERY BAD for your health,  and others. 

SLEEP,   why can’t i sleep!    SEVERAL REASONS THAT CAN BE CORRECTED EASILY [maybe].

  • Sometimes it is very hard to go to bed when we get tired
  • Understand at what point your body tells you to sleep and you don’t
  • Maybe you do not like your sleeping quarters.
  • Too much on your mind
  • Scared at night
  • Your head is not pointing in the right direction.

YES . . .I said your head is not pointing in the right direction . . .You would be surprised as to how many people need their head to be pointing East for a good nights sleep.  Check it out.

YES . . .As soon as you THINK you are tired, go to bed.  Myself, i  have a hard time going to bed when i am tired . . .I have this hidden fear that i am going to miss something?  Maybe you do to.

YES . . .To much on your mind . . .You have to learn to say what is on your mind whether anyone likes it or not. Just learn to say what ever it is in a kind manner, but get it out of your head, thoughts can be like poison turning into stress turning into heart attacks or any other problems one may have.

YES . . .I said maybe where you are sleeping is not a good place for you, remember . . .When you don’t like where you are you leave. So why would you stay and sleep? You can’t can you, so change rooms.

Yes  . . . I said scared at night, being scared at night keeps you awake lying in wait for your boogie-man to appear . . .But as long as your hands and feet are tucked in he/she can not get you. face your fears,  you may find there was nothing to be afraid of in the first place. Just your tired mind playing tricks on you.

Last but not least . . .Learn to UNDERSTAND when you are needing sleep before you hit the floor.  Some people do not know when they need sleep,  they put it off,  until they pass out on their favorite  chair,  then wake-up only after maybe five to twenty-five minutes and now they are awake . . .Wondering why they can’t sleep.

Change your bedroom as many times as it takes until you find that you slept like a baby. This is not an easy thing to do at times, i know . . .Unless you are in control of where you reside or have an understand partner/parent, your bed stays where it is. 

If you can not leave the room you are in for a new room, i am sorry for you . . .I understand what it is like not to be able to sleep no matter the situation as i just recently finally found the only room in the house i sleep like a baby in, beside in front of the Television.

You don’t have to believe me, but,  you do  have to sleep.

Why can’t i sleep   . . .What did you eat . . .Eating can and does affect your sleep, especially when you are prone to heart-burn. You may have to simply raise the head of your bed six inches so you are not lying flat.

Eat healthy, sleep when you are tired, change your bed, change your room, change the way your heads points and face your fears or at least  understand what you fear and get help.  And remember . . .

YOU DO NOT GO TO BED TO THINK YOU GO TO BED TO SLEEP.    Say what you think before you go to bed. If you can’t say it, write it down until you fall a sleep.

Man,  i missed out on a bad lightning and thunder-storm, as i slept like a baby,  in the fourth,  room i  moved to.  Aw yes . . .Finally a good nights SLEEP.

 

 

SOME TEENAGERS NOT ALL

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Some teenagers not all teenagers act like little children. It seems they have nothing better to do,  than walk the streets at night and break things like Glass bottles, on the bike path.

Maybe some teenagers can explain the fun in this smashing glass on bike paths to us. Some teenagers, not all teenagers like to be destructive. WHY?   What is the fun in destroying other people’s property?

Some teenagers not all teenagers know the value in working hard to gain something they want, while other teenagers couldn’t care less. Why? Does this come from how they are raised?  YES IT DOES.

Some teenagers not all teenagers should learn by way of examples of tit-for-tat, and see how they like it.  But this is a very poor example of teaching, i know . . .But at times, this is the only way some teenagers learn, while others will rebel and hunt for revenge.

Some teenagers, not all,  are the product of their parents. As some parents are ignorant of other people’s  belongings.

What do you think . . .Is this a valid statement.

SOMETIMES WE NEED THIEVES

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Sometimes we need thieves?  Yes,  and according to the BIBLE, God used them too.

They taught me this in SUNDAY SCHOOL

THE LOVE SICK BLUES BY SANYAVERO

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Lonely days and lonely nights quite times with mind full fights. Hard to sleep hard to be hard to face the day empty nights.

Why did you find me only to keep me away, you say that you Love me you let me walk away. Now i cry, i cry for you.

Because i’m Love-sick, i have the Love-sick blues.

Because i’m Love-sick, i don’t know what to do.

Because i’m Love-sick, and it’s all because of you.

It’s that feeling,  you know that feeling, i’m hungry, hungry for you. I try to stop it, i try to get my fill, but nothing replaces the pain of lost Love and my will.

Years gone by and this heartbreak grows, my world has gone crazy black stepping stones. Dark space replacing rainbows of what used to be.

Because i’m Love-sick, i have the Love-sick blues.

Because i’m Love-sick, i don’t know what to do.

Because i’m love-sick, and it all because of you.